Stress

There are times where we test one another’s patience and others where there are too many things that we need to balance that it seems overwhelming and daunting. Stress is a part of everyone’s life; the level and length vary in different circumstances though all share the equal irritation and frustration that comes with unexpected events. Prepare beforehand a plan, though minor it may be, in preparation for some stressful situations that arise, so as not to become overwhelmed when the harder trials come or the life altering decisions knock us down, and be patient since acting in haste over certain decisions will surely bring about more regret than joy. 

Transitionaiing

Many like I said before about getting married in haste, also ties in with transitioning into marriage. They say the best gifts are the ones that are slowly unwrapped and carefully treated. Likewise in transitioning, it will be a shock, since it is a complete life style change. So take it easy, unwrap your new life together carefully and see how amazing your relationship and family life will become, though it won’t be easy yet it will be rewarding. 

Getting Married

When preparing for getting Married we need to take the time to learn of the person that you desire to marry, there are many times where couples who think that they are in love jump to get married to realize or soon after loose the interest. It is easy to forget to say I love you or to have a romantic gesture if you think that it is required and not needed to be said.

say I love you

It’s tricky in intimacy with our spouse we sometimes determine that what was once said does not need be repeated, saying I love you out loud reaffirms the feelings that we have inside. I think the Lord knew and understands the human need for verbal confirmation; it simply is not enough to gesture or say only once that we are thankful or love someone but that the act is repeated for us to be reminded of those earlier times and hint towards future progression. Like in the scriptures or in teaching young children we often receive the same message, teaching repeatedly, not that we don’t know but for our betterment, and remembrance. Likewise show those around you, tell your siblings even, that you love them and often.It’s tricky in intimacy with our spouse we sometimes determine that what was once said does not need be repeated, saying I love you out loud reaffirms the feelings that we have inside. I think the Lord knew and understands the human need for verbal confirmation; it simply is not enough to gesture or say only once that we are thankful or love someone but that the act is repeated for us to be reminded of those earlier times and hint towards future progression. Like in the scriptures or in teaching young children we often receive the same message, teaching repeatedly, not that we don’t know but for our betterment, and remembrance. Likewise show those around you, tell your siblings even, that you love them and often.

  

We discussed roles. I felt that within my family I have grown to acknowledge and love the power and blessing of having a worthy priesthood holding father, who through his example, I realize there is nothing I want more than to have a companion who would respect me and raise my family in likewise righteous authority as my father has shown to my mother and us kids. And as a mother and companion, I too can likewise be as awesome as my mom. I am not saying my family follows perfectly with the ideal look of a family, we still argue, get frustrated and pick on one another but fundamentally we know there is love in our home and have grown with the comfort of having the spirit dwell there. Now that all of us seven siblings are grown, I being the youngest, desire to keep that same spirit with us wherever we go and in the homes we build.

think about it

Often choices made by our parents and other family can leave a scars in our relationships with them. This never means you can give up on them or that they no longer deserve your love. Sometimes the hardest decisions a parent makes, like giving up a child so their future is secure or that of a parent leaving in order to mold a new and hopefully better home, these are the result of their love and even harder is it when instead of appreciating the gesture or loving their eagerness to help, we often scorn or ridicule them.  Our understanding of another’s motives and intentions are as assuming a fish after being caught and released wouldn’t fall for the trap a second time. Consider your family’s interaction, try to work on making the bonds stronger and you’ll come to realize that they do love you, you can pick your friends but they come and go, your family is a unit they ,if you’re willing, will be there for you through the eternities.

Learn from the past

Family trends whether we desire them to or not happen generationally. Though values and personal decisions may change, we have a trend that comes naturally that seemingly mirrors those who have gone before. I refer to what we learn from our families or trends that come naturally and often unnoticed to us. These can explain certain behavior and various oddities that each of us bare, again take the time to learn from your family. Build a chart your personally genogram that illustrates family trends that explain where you picked up your values, where you become comfortable under certain stresses that remind you of home. Be aware of the mistakes unseen that you would like to change for your children.