divorce

- since the no fault divorce act happened in the 70’s, marriage is not considered a covenant that a family is built upon, it becomes a contract that once the relationship becomes hard and irritating couples escape easily without  ever putting in effort to stick around and make the relationship work. This affects not only the couple but also both families, their children and friends.  There is a need today for educating one another and building meaningful relationships that even in the most difficult times we don’t regret our decision to have a family and life with the person you marry. 

parenting by encouragement

- when people think of parenting, many consider parenthood as a simply parents teaching their children to listen and respond to the desires and needs of the parent. We need to remember that in teaching others the most effective way in encouragement, to show them the aspects about them that are good.  Teaching others is not only for parenting but also in our treatment and appreciation of others and their good qualities.

my father

The thing that I love most about my father is that he always knew when to share with others that he loved them. As we go from day to day we don’t need people to constantly ask us what is wrong or ask us if there is anything  we need, not that there is a lack of  willingness to help but that as we go along we often say that we don’t need the help and that we are doing just fine. But it is the quiet emotional moments where others know that we need support and know that we don’t need it physically so much as having and knowing we have their support emotionally. It is those moments of frustration; we want someone to just know that we want them to appreciate us without our asking. Somehow he knew when I needed a hug and said “hey”, me: “yeah”, “I love you”, it was always that simple exchange that really said everything that needs to be said: appreciation, thanks, love, and support.

Stress

There are times where we test one another’s patience and others where there are too many things that we need to balance that it seems overwhelming and daunting. Stress is a part of everyone’s life; the level and length vary in different circumstances though all share the equal irritation and frustration that comes with unexpected events. Prepare beforehand a plan, though minor it may be, in preparation for some stressful situations that arise, so as not to become overwhelmed when the harder trials come or the life altering decisions knock us down, and be patient since acting in haste over certain decisions will surely bring about more regret than joy. 

Transitionaiing

Many like I said before about getting married in haste, also ties in with transitioning into marriage. They say the best gifts are the ones that are slowly unwrapped and carefully treated. Likewise in transitioning, it will be a shock, since it is a complete life style change. So take it easy, unwrap your new life together carefully and see how amazing your relationship and family life will become, though it won’t be easy yet it will be rewarding. 

Getting Married

When preparing for getting Married we need to take the time to learn of the person that you desire to marry, there are many times where couples who think that they are in love jump to get married to realize or soon after loose the interest. It is easy to forget to say I love you or to have a romantic gesture if you think that it is required and not needed to be said.

say I love you

It’s tricky in intimacy with our spouse we sometimes determine that what was once said does not need be repeated, saying I love you out loud reaffirms the feelings that we have inside. I think the Lord knew and understands the human need for verbal confirmation; it simply is not enough to gesture or say only once that we are thankful or love someone but that the act is repeated for us to be reminded of those earlier times and hint towards future progression. Like in the scriptures or in teaching young children we often receive the same message, teaching repeatedly, not that we don’t know but for our betterment, and remembrance. Likewise show those around you, tell your siblings even, that you love them and often.It’s tricky in intimacy with our spouse we sometimes determine that what was once said does not need be repeated, saying I love you out loud reaffirms the feelings that we have inside. I think the Lord knew and understands the human need for verbal confirmation; it simply is not enough to gesture or say only once that we are thankful or love someone but that the act is repeated for us to be reminded of those earlier times and hint towards future progression. Like in the scriptures or in teaching young children we often receive the same message, teaching repeatedly, not that we don’t know but for our betterment, and remembrance. Likewise show those around you, tell your siblings even, that you love them and often.